homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 4:39 PM on Friday, May 1st, 2026
Lord, I’m 12 years past divorce finalization. Kids are now 26 and 29. XH and Ow now wifetress recently asked son (26) to help with building a deck around their camper at a campsite. He said ok. Bought materials, showed up~ it’s at a nudist colony. 😕 Didn’t tell son ahead of time. * That’s my biggest complaint*. Son built the deck, but sadly I didn’t know to warn him ahead of time to stay away from Dad, as I thought maybe Dad was more normal now.
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Letmebefrank ( member #86994) posted at 7:00 PM on Friday, May 1st, 2026
Does he really need help? Sounds like he has a pretty funny story to tell his buds…
If he’s actually troubled, I’m not sure there’s much role for you. Your son is 26 years old, he’s going to decide for himself what to do with his relationships. My father left my mom for another woman that he’s still with. I almost never talk to her about him, and if I did I doubt I’d be super open about it, especially to criticize him. I feel like that’s not what I should do.
If he’s really really bothered, you should encourage him to see a therapist.
[This message edited by Letmebefrank at 7:20 PM, Friday, May 1st]
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 10:44 PM on Friday, May 1st, 2026
Don’t worry about your son at 26 he’s having a good laugh and a story to tell.
One thing only: ow asked your son to come to a nudist camp to help with building a deck?
Now knowing what kind of people the OM / OW are there is the only spot I would keep an eye on.
She will betray your ex husband as they usually do. But be it with another garbage guy.
Not to exclude she might have aims all considered.
You never know
You are welcome to send me a PM if you think I can help you. I respond when I can.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:08 PM on Saturday, May 2nd, 2026
Yeah, he should have warned your son. But the stories will be epic, and if your son wasn’t aware of how weird your XWS is, he most definitely knows now. XWS just let him know in the most, uh, transparent and open way possible. I think your son will be okay, and just wishes he could bleach his eyeballs. 
Different strokes and all that, but warn folks. That’s just common courtesy.
I am glad he is your X WS. You made the right decision 12 years ago.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 8:07 PM on Saturday, May 2nd, 2026
Thank you all!!!! I feel better!
I never thought OW was possibly there during the build, too. I always thought xh was a sex addict, now kinda wonder if they are swingers as well, and having our son around her naked to get all that started with him.
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
