Can't forgive or forget

I have been married to the same woman for 40yrs.High school sweethearts.Never been unfaithful, either one of us until 2yrs.ago.We have a son who we lost 8yrs.ago.My daughter who married 7yrs. ago now has 2 children.She lost a child 2yrs. ago who was 12 days old.They used to come over 2 to 3 times a week,they live close.Never really cared for her husband but did not let it be known.2 months after they lost their baby my wife felt she needed to talk to him privately which happened often.They both are late night people and like to overindulge in alcohol.Well this night they decided to have sex in my family room.We have a camera in that room which is not on all the time but we host exchange student's and 1 of them was sneaking down in the middle of the night and making a mess.That is when I saw them on camera doing the dirty deed.I can't erase that video from my mind, can't tell my wife I love her, can't believe what they both did to my daughter.My daughter is staying married to him because of the children and lifestyle.We only see my daughter twice a week for about 20 minutes while we watch my grandkids.My wife and daughter where very close.Know my daughter barely talks to her and when she does you can definitely tell there is tension.My wife is going to therapy,I am not, tried it, didn't work.I am very unhappy and am just accepting that this is how my life will play out.Any insite or advise will be much appreciated

6 comments posted: Wednesday, January 1st, 2025