Topic is Sleeping. 
			 
				    				 Sunnycott (original poster  new member #84714)		posted at 10:54 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2024	
			 
	He's just not making any effort ..except for normal day to day chat..I'm so struggling talking to him normally 
 
			 	 			 
				    				 Sunnycott (original poster  new member #84714)		posted at 11:41 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2024	
			 
	Is it controlling to ask who WH is messaging ..to either tell me straight or show me his messages (I don't want to read them all, just see who he is messaging)?? As apparently that's what I've done this morning..after he listed a few names I know he's not messaged, he went quiet and told me I was controlling. I think this is the final straw for me, I thought maybe just maybe he might say don't be silly here this is who I was messaging..how dumb am I.... 
 
			 	 			 
				    				leafields ( Guide #63517)		posted at 12:27 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2024	
			 
	No, it isn't controlling. Full electronic transparency is generally one of the requirements a lot of us made while deciding whether to D or R. 
He's doing it just to bait you. It's a tactic to do or say something in order to get an emotional reaction from you. It's a manipulation tactic to get your attention or to divert your attention from what he's doing.
If you do the 180 or grey rock, don't respond or say something like, "That's the way you see it."
He's being a horse's butt. 
 
			 			BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21		
	 	 
	 Topic is Sleeping.