tnt1997 (original poster new member #46710) posted at 1:04 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2025
Just by chance, I came across and old email from when I was frequently posting on this sight for advice during my toxic marriage where infidelity was going on. All I can say is WOW! It was 2015 when I last posted. We ended up getting divorced in 2017. I battled and struggled with codependency so it about killed me at the thought of letting go so when we did divorce I was devastated and basically just wanted to die. It's a long story of where I am today, but by the grace of God I am alive and well and so much better off. When I look at the private messages, I was a mess. Thank God I am not in that place anymore.
If any of you are having trouble letting go, I completely get it. I was you!!! Please get help! My WS would shame me on here and I took it. I have come to learn my identity is not in him, but in my creator. Sometimes reflecting is good to see how far you've come. To see that there is light at the end of the tunnel and there is HOPE!! Please reach for it.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:30 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2025
Thank you for providing an update. I'm glad you're doing so much better.
I agree. It was tough leaving my 30+ year marriage. The peace & contentment I have now is so much better.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 2:43 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2025
It’s so hard to make that first step. Change is very difficult sometimes.
I hope your confidence now soars.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
