Hi all thank you for the replies to my previous posts regarding DHs "friend", disrespect and boundaries, just needed to update and an offload.
So since I last posted I took advice off here, and detached myself emotionally, tried to get on with things, things haven't been great in other areas we are having awful harrassment off a neighbour which has been causing us much stress, my sons ocds are off the scale, so yea its kind of been awful recently. DH has been really good and helpful with all this going on. But in the back of my mind, I keep thinking it must be driving him mad, and all the things going on are classic signs where partners look elsewhere.
However, a few weird or red flag things have happened.
Before things got bad with this ow, and I found out what she was like around my husband and in that group chat, and that my DH has been messaging, she was very overly friendly towards me, which I know can be a red flag, she added me on Facebook in january, which I now know was to nosey. I only accepted her because she messaged me asking how I was and I genuinely thought she seemed OK, until I've found out what she's like. I now know it was probably all fake and that these kinds of women do this. At the time, I didnt suspect anything and I do have mutual female friends with DH. But now, it stands out a mile.
There has also been, shall I say, some very suspicious posts on her fb hinting that she's around my Husband a lot at work on breaks, posts hinting that she's jealous of us, posing photos which my husband hasn't liked but I noticed before she added me he was all over her posts,(I've scrolled back and looked, he was "loving " her pics and posts daily ) and other strange things have been posted.
Some of these posts were most obviously when I was posting things about myself and DH.
I told DH I didn't want to hear her name mentioned again, and he hasn't. However, he's seemed very distant. Like something is bothering him.
Recently on fb I found out she restricted me for no reason at all, other than wanting a reaction, so I removed her off my FB. It's not accidental, to restrict someone it takes a number of clicks on fb. I didn't message her or ask her why. But it's all weird.ive had no messages off her, which is weird as she was very overly friendly before . Red flag??
This caused my husband to get all funny and defensive over it all, when I don't even know the woman properly other than her liking my husband.
My husbands moods have been awful, very snappy and very irritable
I think she has been getting at him about me, trying to come between us and cause friction. She knows exactly what she is doing. She will be asking him why I've removed her when she's playing games restricting me. She will be saying stuff to him.
We are due to go away soon and I have this awful feeling something is going to happen whilst we are away, like she will message me or something.
My Husband is still in that ridiculous group chat where shes attention seeking constantly, but hes just not mentioned her or much at all since I said not to. However, I know he still chats to her, so he is still disrespecting me.
So anyway i just wanted to offload. I don't know where things are going and we have a lot going on right now, but all this is still bothering me. I haven't tried looking at his phone either. I just feel so stressed with everything else going on, I just can't.
I've decided that after the holiday if things are still the same, something is going to have to give. Especially if things don't change.
[This message edited by Bluefairy at 9:24 PM, Monday, April 21st]
