JustanotherAnonymouse (original poster new member #86214) posted at 5:15 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2025
And before anyone says it. We did go through STI testing and all clear.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 7:30 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2025
You have just described the majority of cheaters. A slippery slope, a friendship, a person saying they loved, all came together to make an affair. Your wife does not sound like a bad person. She sounds like her life at work became more important than her life at home. There are no dishes to cook and clean, no toilets to scrub, no finances to balance, no bills to pay. It is the adult version of fairyland. A mythical, mystical place where everything is so intense and dense no sunlight(common sense) gets in.
If she is truly dedicated she will put in the work. You should not.
I follow 1stwife because she put up with two affairs and a threat of divorce. One day she hit a wall and was done. She not only didn’t beg, or fall apart, she decided divorce was her choice and spent months planning it. Reality hit her husband in the face and he took on the responsibility to fix himself. That is where your wife should be. You have carried the burden of grief long enough.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
