1994 ( member #82615) posted at 4:00 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2025
Ive got a process thats unfolding here, I have an infidelity specialist, and two stubborn dipshits, neither of which is going to be the one who blinks first, but at least are unwilling to give up on the other.
I have very little wisdom to offer here. You are clearly resolute in your chosen course of action, and no one can fault you for commitment. To not only deal with the trauma of a nearly certain full-on PA that you may never get clarity on, but an unremorseful WW who willingly subjected you to degrading humiliation time and again and still stands by while you suffer takes strength/ stubbornness that most people will never approach. A WW who ridiculously claims that she had the moral courage to not sleep with another man despite having shopped for condoms, but who did not have the backbone to stand up to them as they bullied you in front of her. That strength will serve you well as you work through the trauma you've endured.
Sorry if this has come up already and I missed it. But if you do, indeed, commit to R, just be prepared for POLF (Plain of Lethal Flatness). Once you get through the first few years of struggle, you may get to a point where what you won may not seem worth it. A "so, this is what I fought for?" It's very common to have that kind of buyer's remorse. Just like this shit sandwich, you can work through that as well.
Stay strong, brother. It will get better.
