Lisanne1996 (original poster new member #69902) posted at 2:41 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2024
WH has been having an affair for years… In Sept he told me he wants a divorce but he hasn’t moved out … Finances are an issue- but why won’t he just go stay with a friend or move in with the whore? She is single…
I even packed him a suitcase and offered to drop him off at her house and I was serious.. I just want him out…
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 3:47 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2024
Friend – in the kindest of words.
You have already given us the answer to most of the questions you are asking us:
He has tried to control me my whole marriage and now he wants to control the divorce
You shared that you have filed a domestic abuse charge on him.
Have you followed our earlier advice and prepared for divorce? Do you have your attorney ready and have you started the process?
One think you can do is ask the court to give you residence during the process. Basically forcing him to move out.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
Lisanne1996 (original poster new member #69902) posted at 3:56 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2024
Hi!
I have contacted an attorney - I am waiting to hear back for a consultation…. I particularly want this lawyer based off a friends advice..
Do to my husbands business , the nature of his personality ((narcissistic)) I feel like I need a very tough lawyer…
Now I am just waiting to hear back so I can get legal advice…
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:18 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2024
You're entering a new world. Your friend may strongly recommend this lawyer, but you are different from your friend. If this attorney is not really what you want, it's OK to consider - consult with - someone else.
A recommendation is a place for beginning, not necessarily a place for ending.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
ChangeMaker ( member #43899) posted at 10:42 PM on Sunday, January 5th, 2025
I would also suggest that his lawyer is telling him not to leave the house.
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015